How 2 Love…

Beliefs. What was your role in your partner having an affair?

Hello and welcome to this new web series how 2 love, follow these weekly instructions and you will soon be clean and clear and happy in love.

Hi. I am Selina stone a master life coach and I will be presenting you each week with a new key that opens the door to love! These wisdoms and teachings that I am sharing with you were passed onto by my mentor and teacher David Essel who has over 30 yrs experience and a high success rate amongst his clients.

Last week, we looked into what was your role in the past love relationships that created chaos and drama, and for those of you that have experienced the upset of an affair in a past or current relationship. We are going to look at our belief system today – what was your role in your partner having an affair?

Between now and our next session I want you to go deep and really at look at this question and everyday for the next 7 days following these 3 steps this is what I want you to do…..

Step 1 – write down this question think about it what was your role in the affair??when it comes to this question many state that I am not the one who cheated, I have no role in the affair, now i am going to tell you something that you may find shocking or already know to be true, the one thing here could be that you have to find out, figure out what is your role, how accountable are you, what are you doing that helped to contributes for the person you are with to go off and have an affair. Until you are willing to do that, until you are willing to see your role in your current or past relationship that is not working then nothing will change and it takes a huge person to do this work, it really does.

Step 2 – visualise – write scenario the feelings it brings to mind, describe the pictures you are seeing, Now If you get stuck and you say, you know I really do not think it’s me, it’s mainly the other people, then you might want to ask close friends of yours, you know could you be honest with me, why do you think i attract people into my life that cheat on me, I do not think I have any role in the reason why they do this, but did you see anything that I have done on a regular basis that may have led to them having an affair? Ask them to be honest with you.

Step 3 – repetition  – write and re write your answers, look at this question everyday over the next week , what does this statement mean to you, what is its meaning in your

This is why we say slow down and re write the questions, we need to dismantle the belief that it´s men, its women who are the problems in our relationships does that make sense,  you see when you get this specific this course is only going to be as effective as to how honest you will be. So what were your role or roles in past relationships that led to your partner having an affair, work hard on this during this next week

 The Subconscious is going to want to tear you away from this question, and depending on how powerful your belief system has been ingrained that the reason for your partner going off and having an affair is mainly the other persons fault, which is never true but the subconscious may want you to believe that and you may struggle with the idea that it’s not. You can regain your love life in a relationship even if they had an affair, it can be saved, write down what was your role in the affair, even if you were the one who had not cheated, what did you do in marriage that contributed to your partner going out and having an affair?

Well that’s all we have time for today, I look forward to you all tuning in again next week. In the meantime please subscribe to my YouTube channel and you will be notified when the next session is aired. Together we can stay on track to creating a deep meaningful love into your life and that’s the reason why I am here for you. Until next week,

Be Lucky!

Selina Stone

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