How to Make Small Talk With People.
Effective Communication Skills!
“The gift of gab” or the ability to enter a new or unfamiliar situation and begin to engage others in conversation is a widely admired skill. Many people wrongly consider it as an innate ability that one is born with. The ability to make small talk is not a natural gift but an acquired skill.
One of the most sought-after skills, the ability to make successful small talk can be learned and perfected through practice. This skill can play a vital role in boosting your self confidence and can be critical in your personal and professional life.
For most people, starting a conversation with unfamiliar people is a difficult and painful task. They would rather pull their toe nails out than actually have to go up to someone they have never met before and strike up a conversation!
This session is all about how to communicate with people you have never met before. You can use the techniques even with people whom you find really in-communicative or in a difficult situation.
Meeting people for the first time can be a very daunting task. However, if you understand all about other people and how they like to communicate and what they like to talk about, then meeting people for the first time can be an enjoyable experience.
The main difficulty you face in starting a small talk with an unfamiliar person is that you put yourself under tremendous pressure to talk. You will start asking yourself questions like:
- What should I talk about?
- What shall I say?
- How will I fill this silence in the conversation?
You are very concerned about how others are evaluating you while you are making small talk. You are concerned not only for the evaluation during the talk but also for the judgement that goes beyond the conversation. You are too busy thinking of what to say that you forget about communicating with the other person!
BECOME AN EXPERT LISTENER
“You say it best when you say nothing at all” Boyzone
The best conversationalists in this world are the best listeners. You must resist the urge to dominate the conversation. In fact, the person who says the least is often the best communicator. Then why should you be racking your brains thinking of things to say every time?
In a conversation, you are listening means the other person is talking. Becoming an expert listener makes you a good conversationalist. During the conversation lean slightly forward, face the other person directly, and don’t miss a single word. Most people are poor listeners because they are busy preparing a reply while the other person is still speaking.
When you go into a situation where you are meeting someone for the first time, you need to be very much focused on him/her. You must treat that person as if he/she is the most important person in the world. Ask questions that evoke interest in them and be intrigued about them.
Small talks depend very much on your ability to ask questions and to listen attentively to the answers. Wait for your turn to speak. The others person will ask about you at any point during the conversation. Don’t talk for too long. Always try to ask open-ended questions.
So, how can you start and hold a good conversation?
To do this, it is important to understand what other people like to talk about.
Here is the TOP 5 in order. Watch this video to find out more, or download the written version of this course.
Welcome to part 5 of this 6 part on-line coaching program.
Extract taken from the on-line life coaching program “Effective Communication Skills ” a 6 part life skills e-course that has been designed for you to do in your own time, with or without the use of an accountability coach. The choice is yours, find out more…
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