How 2 Love…
Friends with benefits
Hello and welcome to how 2 love, follow these weekly instructions and you will soon be on your way to manifesting deep and meaningful love into your life. Learn how to attract the love we desire and deserve with these 3-4 minute blogs each week.
In our last session we touched on the law of attraction, the reflection in the mirror that is being projected back at us from the outside world, the way we are perceived by others, now let’s take that a step further as to how we else we maybe sabotaging our chances of love when we mess around and have friends with benefits. This time filler so as not to be alone takes us away from our confidence, damages our self esteem and our ability to create and develop a deep love relationship,
Hi. I am Selina stone a master life coach and I will be presenting you each week with a new key that opens the door to love! These wisdoms and teachings that I am sharing with you were passed onto by my mentor and teacher David Essel who has over 30 yrs experience and a high success rate amongst his clients.
if we are here to look for a deep & meaningful love relationship the odds are we need to stay single and free and clear and not messed up in chaos and drama, like when we get into relationships called friends with benefits, this so called no strings attached sex believe it or not it can often take us of course. It may be ok for some people they may say, until I find deep love I do not mind having friends with benefits, no strings attached sex and it could work for them but these people usually are not ready to open up nor or they looking for a lasting relationship the type that we are here to manifest during this course.
Between now and our next session I want you to go deep and really at look at this question and everyday for the next 7 days following these 3 steps this is what I want you to do…..
Step 1 – write down this question think about it: Friends with benefits means what to you?
I want you to look at this question from a limitation point of view; I want you to realize that when we are out in the world and being physically intimate with other people that these nights or trips abroad with our bit of fun could actually be taking us away from the whole concept of deep& meaningful love. It could be saying we do have not the patience; it could be our lack of patience for deep love, that while we were out having fun with someone else an amazing opportunity came to our door, it could be a friend of a friend came over, but we were not there to meet them because we were elsewhere. So while we were wasting our time fooling around, taking up time so we did not have to be alone, we missed out on a great opportunity to love due to our lack of patience for acquiring what we really want.
Step 2 – visualization – write the scenario the feelings it brings to mind, the triggers, the memories of the past, then fast forward and jump into the future and see you living in bliss of how you would like things to be, describe the pictures you are seeing, just write them all down. Look into all of the following angles when it comes to having friends with benefits “no strings attached” how do these behaviours limit or enhance our desire for deep love? How, write them all down. How does interacting with people simply for sex while waiting for that deep love relationship, how would that enhance your chances of attracting or manifesting the love you desire? Lets get clear here and flush out all of the excuses and get rid of the garbage, so you will be strong the next time when a friends with benefits relationship is presented to you to enter into. Get ready to just say no, you are worth so much more.
Step 3 – repetition – write and re write your answers, look at this question everyday over the next week , what does this statement mean to you, what is its meaning in your life as we all know too well it’s human behaviour to take the easiest route, it’s almost like when people say they need to lose weight and instead of doing it the way that will be more beneficial for them in the long run through exercise and nutrition work which for most find it to be hard work and time consuming they take the diet pills, it’s the same thing diet pills never work it’s a short cut, short cuts do not work in regards to weight loss or to deep love either, neither does the distraction, the chaos and drama that often come with friends with benefits, the no strings attached sex can indeed take you of the path to deep love.
Finally, most women because of an hormone released in the brain of oxytocin which is also referred to as the bonding hormone, most women have a very difficult time of being straight up friends with benefits no strings attached sex because there becomes this emotional attachment even if they did not intend it in the beginning, all of a sudden they are being compulsive and worrying about why the guy has not called even if they talked about this openly and honestly like all I want to do is have sex with you and the women goes great all of a sudden it’s not so great, chaos and drama follows, chaos and drama is pulling us away from our capability, confidence and high self esteem of creating a deep love relationship this little chemical oxytocin that women release has rail roaded so many women from deep love, giving them nothing but week after week of heartbreak, anger, frustration & drama. Is there any benefit? Can it enhance our chance for deep love? Think about it, I cannot see any,
Well that’s all we have time for today, I look forward to you all tuning in again next week. In the meantime please subscribe to my YouTube channel and you will be notified when the next session is aired. Together we can stay on track to creating a deep meaningful love into your life and that’s the reason I am here. And if you feel you would like me to personally coach you, inspire and motivate then please feel free to contact me via my website www.selinastone.com
Until next week,