How 2 Love…
Hello and welcome to how 2 love, follow these weekly instructions and you will soon be on your way to manifesting deep and meaningful love into your life. Learn how to attract the love we desire and deserve with these 3-4 minute blogs each week.
In our last session we made a start on letting go of our excuses and resentments. This release process can take between 7-21 days of sincere letter writing, we will continue on with these until there is no emotion or attachments to your shame, guilt or resentment.
Hi. I am Selina stone a master life coach and I will be presenting you each week with a new key that opens the door to love! These wisdoms and teachings that I am sharing with you were passed onto by my mentor and teacher David Essel who has over 30 yrs experience and a high success rate amongst his clients.
In this session we are to delve deeper and look into the art of forgiveness in order for us to truly be able to let go of the feelings. We do this by writing the letter´s to self and a letter to the one who hurt you
These letters of forgiveness, these exercises that I am asking you to do are so that you can be free of the past and the beauty is you never have to send these letters to anyone. You can write these letters to anyone, but we do have to write these letters honestly, sincerely and then and only then can you have closure. Contrary to belief closure does not mean it has to be face to face, just keep repeating the letter writings, until there is no more anger, shame or guilt. There is no need to contact the people and open up a can of worms, nothing is resolved and you can deepen the wounds. However if you do have your heart set on making that personal call or email for whatever reason, the only way to closure if you do want to make that call and ask someone for forgiveness, is if you have no expectations, if you call the person to say sorry and they blow up, that is OK, if you call to say you had an affair and they had no idea you had one and they start crying, then that’s ok. In other words you have to let go of the end result.
With this in mind between now and our next session I want you to go deep and really at look at this question and everyday for the next 7 days following these 3 steps this is what I want you to do…..
Step 1 – write down this question think about it – what do I need to forgive?
Some people may not want to forgive, but if you want to create a deep and meaningful love relationship you are going to have to work through it, even if it’s a battle, you sit to write, and you cry, you sit to write and you are angry and if you do not want to forgive you will attract people into your life who are a mirror to those resentments, think about that, If you do not let them go they will run your love life. I hope that’s motivation enough for you to figure out a way that means you will write these letters every day.
Step 2 – visualization – write the scenario the feelings it brings to mind, the triggers, the memories of the past, then fast forward and jump into the future and see you living in bliss of how you would like things to be, describe the pictures you are seeing, just write them all down. Remember all the times you hurt someone, or someone hurt you. Example: A letter of forgiveness to a former partner who cheated on you could be; Dear Mr X. I am going to write this to you to release the resentments I have to open my heart to love. I forgive you for cheating on me in school, college, last week, last year, whenever that act was.
A forgiveness letter to self could be: I forgive myself for cheating on someone. I forgive myself for treating someone unkindly in a relationship. We have to forgive our self for something that we have done that is a part of this work too. You have to be willing to forgive yourself no matter how atrocious the action was, no matter how much you hurt someone else you have to be willing to do this work. Release the guilt, the shame against you, the anger against your former partner; this could be from 18 years old that you have carried this with you
Step 3 – repetition – write and re write your answers, look at this question everyday over the next week , what does this statement mean to you, what is its meaning in your life
It’s an extremely powerful tool we use when we write these letters daily, even if it takes longer than 7 days just keep doing it until you are clear, we have to do this deep release work if we want to create a deep and meaningful love relationship into our lives, if we do not let go of these excuses in writing or the resentments through the forgiveness writing they are going to eat us up, chew us up and spit us out! If we do not remove the blocks that we have carried in love the excuses the resentments the beliefs etc, if we do not release them in writing, it is going to hold.
So for the next 7 days we will be letting go of the excuses, the resentments and when you clear these out and let them go, your mind will be clear, your heart will be clear, it will be more open, for if you do not trust, what do you think you are you going to attract… I will tell you, you will continue to attract people to prove you should not trust them and that’s the next point we are going to cover in our next session – the law of attraction- but right now we are focusing on the act of forgiveness, it is so important to do this written forgiveness work, to forgive yourself & to forgive others.
Well that’s all we have time for today, I look forward to you all tuning in again next week. In the meantime please subscribe to my YouTube channel and you will be notified when the next session is aired. Together we can stay on track to creating a deep meaningful love into your life and that’s the reason I am here. And if you feel you would like me to personally coach you, inspire and motivate then please feel free to contact me via my website www.selinastone.com Until next week,