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What are the excuses that you use?
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When it comes to Blocks to deep love the very first thing is excuses, in this session we are going to find out what those excuses are that we continually use that block us from deep love. Please reflect upon this & always be 100% honest, even if you are not proud of the truth
A few examples are; I do not have time to go looking for someone who is perfect. I am just going to settle for what I can get. I was never shown deep love at home, I had terrible role models, my dad left when I was 11 years old, or it could be my mum was an alcoholic, my mum and dad never showed affection to each other, blah, blah, blah & guess what? These are all excuses that you are holding onto that are blocking you from experiencing deep and meaningful love.
Hi. I am Selina stone a master life coach and I will be presenting you each week with a new key that opens the door to love! These wisdoms and teachings that I am sharing with you were passed onto by my mentor and teacher David Essel who has over 30 yrs experience and a high success rate amongst his clients.
Between now and our next session I want you to go deep and really at look at this question and everyday for the next 7 days following these 3 steps this is what I want you to do…..
Step 1 – write down this question think about it What are the excuses that you use? I really want you to think about this, and peel through the layers, it’s not going to be easy but you will feel a whole lot lighter once you have done this.
The Number 1 excuse used by most is, since all the good ones are taken I have to take what I can get and then you settle for less, in other words it’s better to be with someone than to be alone.
The Number 2 excuse is, I do not want to be alone I deserve to be with someone. That excuse is just a way to get into another unhealthy relationship. I do not want to be alone anymore, be in on a Friday, Saturday night, it’s just not fair, it s not right
If in a relationship what are your excuses as to why you cannot go deeper? If single what are the excuses you have told your family friends as to why you have not yet found the love you are looking for?
Step 2 – visualization – write the scenario the feelings it brings to mind, the triggers, the memories of the past, then fast forward and jump into the future and see your ideal solutions of you living in bliss, describe the pictures you are seeing, just write them all down.
We need to write down all of the excuses that you have been holding onto, let’s flush them all out and see how many of these excuses there are, for on a subconscious level, we may say jokingly to friends that they are no good men or women they have all been taken so why even bother? And we laugh it off, when it’s really not a laughing matter; it’s actually a deep statement an excuse that is blocking us from love. To say something every once in a while is a joke, no harm done, but to say something continuously becomes a pattern
Step 3 – repetition – write and re write your answers, look at this question everyday over the next week , what does this statement mean to you, what is its meaning in your life. Ask former partners; ask best friends what excuses am I repeating to you, what do I keep saying that constantly comes up in my conversations with to, as to why I do not have a deep & meaningful l love relationship. Even if you are in a relationship, ask your family, your best friends what is it that you are saying over and over again that is blocking my current relationship from being phenomenal, what excuses am i using?
Briefly so far we have been looking at excuses that block us from obtaining deep love and you have been asked to write down all of the excuses that you have been using.
Some may say, we have never been shown deep love and will be blaming people from the past as to why they have not manifested love into their life, the love they desire. This is a whole new topic and it will be one that we will be covering in next week´s session to do with the resentments we may hold against others, an example of this is when one would say, it’s because of my parents that I am not going to find deep love, when deep down we know this to be nonsense, it does not make sense and yet we continue to use and hold onto these excuses that are blocking us from deep & meaningful love.
Well that’s all we have time for today, I look forward to you all tuning in again next week. In the meantime please subscribe to my YouTube channel and you will be notified when the next session is aired. Together we can stay on track to creating a deep meaningful love into your life and that’s the reason I am here. And if you feel you would like me to personally coach you, inspire and motivate then please feel free to contact me via my website www.selinastone.com
until next week,